- 00:01
- One of the challenges with tango for a leader, there are many, is that it's
- 00:06
- difficult to know where her axis is. And so I'll give you two ideas.
- 00:11
- So idea number one is that at the end of the step,
- 00:15
- you want to feel if she's, I'm going to say leaning any direction, towards you,
- 00:19
- away, whatever.
- 00:20
- Do you want me to lead?
- 00:21
- No, it's fine. And feel that. And the analogous way to feel that would be sort of
- 00:25
- like balancing a chair on one leg. And so if I'm here with a chair and you want to
- 00:31
- know, is the chair on its axis? Well, how do you know?
- 00:34
- And the answer is you feel it pulling that way, in this case.
- 00:37
- And so then I move it back, and then I feel, oh, I went too far.
- 00:41
- And then eventually you can feel
- 00:44
- where it feels, and then you try to say, okay.
- 00:46
- And you try to have it be balanced and not fall too fast.
- 00:49
- That was amazing.
- 00:52
- So it's a funny thing, but that's a great exercise to develop the sensitivity
- 00:56
- through touch.
- 00:56
- I think that's one of David's superpowers.
- 00:58
- That chair didn't really even want to fall.
- 01:02
- And so as an example, I'm going to be very off balance and I'm here, and
- 01:08
- so if she were holding me, I'm clearly off balance.
- 01:11
- Hold me with your hands, like around my shoulders. Yeah.
- 01:15
- Like this. Yeah. Great. Put me on my axis slowly.
- 01:20
- And so she feels that at the beginning, rewind, at the beginning, there's forward
- 01:24
- pressure. Oh, my partner's off balance. Don't just support them. Put them back.
- 01:32
- So we're looking for the place where there's no forward pressure or backward
- 01:35
- pressure in that example.
- 01:37
- Okay, so that's the first thing. That's an awareness exercise.
- 01:39
- But the second thing is once you get close enough, let's say here, it's mostly
- 01:44
- close enough,
- 01:46
- get out of the way, because leaders, you're not going to get it 100% right.
- 01:49
- You're going to get it 99% right, and you want to let your follower move themself
- 01:53
- the last one.
- 01:54
- Yeah, the last little bit.
- 01:56
- So in some sense, at the beginning, I said, "We're going." And I say, "Oh, where is
- 02:00
- it? You tell me. Oh, you like that? I like that, too." And then we take a step.
- 02:05
- Where is it? Oh, it's there. Okay. And so I want you to see that at the beginning
- 02:08
- of the motion, there's power and clarity, and at the end, I'm just being here for
- 02:12
- her.
- 02:13
- Yeah. He's kind of waiting, giving me a space in which I can find my perfect axis.
- 02:17
- And if I do the reverse, this is the bad.
- 02:20
- I'd say, "Oh, we're here." Then it goes right here, and then it goes right here.
- 02:23
- Yeah.
- 02:24
- And I gave her, there's no room. You're staying inside this prison.
- 02:28
- That was a very good bad, David.
- 02:30
- Let's end with the good, though. No, let's end with the good. So we say, "Let's go.
- 02:34
- Where would you like to be? Oh, that's-- Oh, I like that, too." That's how you end.
Lead - Allowing Her to Claim her Axis
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