Compensating for Your Partner - She Rushes Ahead of My Lead

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For everyone, you have to go more than half way to meet your partner.

A man was riding his Harley along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said, 'Because you have TRIED to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.'

The biker pulled over and said, 'Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want'.

The Lord said, 'That request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help mankind.'

The biker thought about it for a long time.

Finally, he said, 'Okay, I wish that I, and all men, could understand our wives; I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says 'nothing's wrong', and how I can make a woman truly happy.'

And the Lord replied, 'You want two lanes or four lanes on that bridge?'

Artist Name:
Jaime Wilensky
Song Title:
Aquella Noche
Album Title:
Tango Nuevo 2

(From Latinpulsemusic.com): This is nuevo "electrified" tango produced and arranged by Jaime Wilensky. Aquella Noche is a tango with a gothic sound and theme.

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This is a fun one, for me, every time we teach it.
00:08
Because it's about the woman, kind of, rushing away from the lead. And just doing the step, 'cause she knows what the step is,
00:14
Instead of letting the man lead them both into it. And I'm really good at that.
00:19
D: She's good at doing the right, by the way.
N: Thank you.
D: As well.
00:24
So, we're going to do... I'll let her do the wrong. On me, I'll let myself do it.
00:28
So, what it is, is I figure out what he wants. And then, I go do it.
00:34
D: You are, you have a rare gift.
N: I feel, I think so, too. Yeah, you study to learn how to do that.
00:39
So, what I do first... Actually, if we do it to this camera...
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I become insanely still.
00:46
D: Right? So, if she's all jittery and move-y... Be jittery and move-y.
N: Oh, this is a really cool technique. I've used it as a leader, too.
00:56
It's just mesmerizing.
00:59
And so, I become incredibly still...in a really active way. And that stillness causes her to start to listen.
01:06
And then, he does this incredibly slow, beautiful weight shift. With a mind-meld.
01:13
And, at some point, the woman, whatever she's doing or thinking about,
01:16
Will realize something cool is going on, and start listening to that instead.
01:20
And, as soon as she starts listening to that - he's got her. For a little while.
01:23
Yeah, for a little while. Before she runs off again.
01:26
Also, as we do this... There's the sense that I'll hold her tighter.
01:44
And I'll stop. So, she has to stop moving.
01:48
So i'll be very convicted, full of conviction. And then I'll go...and I'll stop.
01:52
And then I'll go, maybe, to here. And then, I'll brace myself. Right?
01:55
So, I really have... I'm planting myself a little bit back, with the left foot forward. So, I can, actually, lever against.
02:01
So, if she throws herself back, I can just be here like a rock. And then, go through.
02:07
And so, eventually, if you have all of these coping mechanisms, you can...
02:11
N: She figures it out.
D: Yeah.
N: Just listening.
02:13
Well, not just that. If you keep the pace slow enough, then, also, that tends to encourage people to listen.