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Compensating for Your Partner - She Rushes Ahead of My Lead

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For everyone, you have to go more than half way to meet your partner.

A man was riding his Harley along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said, 'Because you have TRIED to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.'

The biker pulled over and said, 'Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want'.

The Lord said, 'That request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help mankind.'

The biker thought about it for a long time.

Finally, he said, 'Okay, I wish that I, and all men, could understand our wives; I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says 'nothing's wrong', and how I can make a woman truly happy.'

And the Lord replied, 'You want two lanes or four lanes on that bridge?'

Artist Name:
Jaime Wilensky
Song Title:
Aquella Noche
Album Title:
Tango Nuevo 2

(From This is nuevo "electrified" tango produced and arranged by Jaime Wilensky. Aquella Noche is a tango with a gothic sound and theme.

This is a fun one, for me, every time we teach it.
Because it's about the woman, kind of, rushing away from the lead. And just doing the step, 'cause she knows what the step is,
Instead of letting the man lead them both into it. And I'm really good at that.
D: She's good at doing the right, by the way.
N: Thank you.
D: As well.
So, we're going to do... I'll let her do the wrong. On me, I'll let myself do it.
So, what it is, is I figure out what he wants. And then, I go do it.
D: You are, you have a rare gift.
N: I feel, I think so, too. Yeah, you study to learn how to do that.
So, what I do first... Actually, if we do it to this camera...
I become insanely still.
D: Right? So, if she's all jittery and move-y... Be jittery and move-y.
N: Oh, this is a really cool technique. I've used it as a leader, too.
It's just mesmerizing.
And so, I become incredibly a really active way. And that stillness causes her to start to listen.
And then, he does this incredibly slow, beautiful weight shift. With a mind-meld.
And, at some point, the woman, whatever she's doing or thinking about,
Will realize something cool is going on, and start listening to that instead.
And, as soon as she starts listening to that - he's got her. For a little while.
Yeah, for a little while. Before she runs off again.
Also, as we do this... There's the sense that I'll hold her tighter.
And I'll stop. So, she has to stop moving.
So i'll be very convicted, full of conviction. And then I'll go...and I'll stop.
And then I'll go, maybe, to here. And then, I'll brace myself. Right?
So, I really have... I'm planting myself a little bit back, with the left foot forward. So, I can, actually, lever against.
So, if she throws herself back, I can just be here like a rock. And then, go through.
And so, eventually, if you have all of these coping mechanisms, you can...
N: She figures it out.
D: Yeah.
N: Just listening.
Well, not just that. If you keep the pace slow enough, then, also, that tends to encourage people to listen.