- 00:00
- Another story that we tell ourselves as followers is that we just follow.
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- The leader will do stuff and make it happen, and we just follow, and that's not
- 00:09
- right. We actually, each of us need to own our own dance, and the idea
- 00:15
- that, oh, I can only dance well if I dance with somebody wonderful that's really
- 00:19
- great. That's not right. In fact, my dance lives
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- inside me. Your dance lives inside you, and you take it with you no matter who you
- 00:30
- dance with.
- 00:32
- So let's do a demo. If I'm going to be following and I'm-
- 00:35
- I'm going to lead. I wasn't very good at doing the wrong.
- 00:39
- So here's the wrong. I'll follow, and let's play pretend some song is playing.
- 00:43
- Whatever. Tango Du Por. ♪ Da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, di, da, da, da♪
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- And as this is happening, I want you to notice that I'm following, but I don't
- 00:54
- have, I'm going to call it, any life or conviction in my body.
- 00:57
- We were very together, actually, but I was like a limp noodle.
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- Yeah, a little bit like a-
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- In my spirit.
- 01:03
- Yeah. His body was somewhat like a limp noodle, but his spirit was very like a limp
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- noodle.
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- On the other hand, this one. ♪ Ya, da, da, da, da, dum, da, da,
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- da♪
- 01:17
- Oh, yeah. That one made me want to go slower.
- 01:19
- Right. And so there, I took ownership of my dance, and this is what we want
- 01:24
- followers to do. How do they do that?
- 01:28
- Okay. That's a trick question. So you have this idea of who you are as a dancer,
- 01:34
- and you think that idea into your body, particularly here,
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- and you grab your strength there, and you keep it available pretty much no matter
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- what the leader does.
- 01:46
- Also, you need to have an opinion. If a song is playing,
- 01:50
- how does that manifest in your body?
- 01:53
- Hmm.
- 01:54
- So as a follower, we have more leeway than it seems like we would in terms of
- 01:59
- letting our body land and letting our body into the music.
- 02:03
- And so let's say there's a different song.
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- ♪ Ya, dum, ba, dum, ba, da, da, dun, da, di, ya, da,
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- dun, da, dum, ba, da, doo, dum♪ And I'm not being very
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- imposing on her.
- 02:17
- Not at all.
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- But what came out was her interpretation of the dancing to that sound.
- 02:22
- That's right.
Followers technique for Connection - I dance well if my leader is good ...
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