Connection - No Give For Connection
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- One of the hard things about tango is that the difference between doing it
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- amazingly well and being like meh is maybe this big.
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- One of the 75 hard things about tango.
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- Okay, so there are many hard things.
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- And right now, if we talk about lead follow, I'm going to show you, I'm going to
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- call it a mediocre lead and a good lead.
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- So if we zoom out, and then we'll zoom in so you can see the difference.
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- So here is a mediocre lead,
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- and then here's a good lead.
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- And I can feel a big difference between those two.
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- So it feels massively different.
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- It does.
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- And probably if you look at it, it's like, so what? What just happened?
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- And so if you look at our arms, let me go up just a bit higher, and the
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- relationship of the arm to the body. Oh, sorry, I went too far.
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- Zoom out a bit. All right. So look at the relationship of my shoulder, my elbow,
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- and the line of my torso. Even the elbow and the line of my torso.
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- The good
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- is like that. And you'll see that this
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- isn't moving on me or
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- on her. Right? That the body moves, the arms don't move, for
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- now. Now, on the other hand, here's the mediocre.
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- Only yours or both of ours?
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- Just mine. So here, my body moved forward, my elbow barely moved. Do you see that?
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- That my elbow is going back in space, my body goes forward.
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- I'd do this if I didn't want her to move.
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- That's extremely common.
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- But if I do a little bit of it, right there I did a little bit.
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- The elbow didn't move, the body did.
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- That's me saying, "I'm going to go," but not communicating it through to her
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- through my hands. This is the wrong, here's the right.
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- Show the real wrong now.
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- Here's the big wrong.
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- Little wrong, I mean.
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- Oh.
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- Littler wrong than that.
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- Oh, yeah. So what people usually do is this.
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- And then what the follower does is figure out what he wants and try to do it, which
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- is not true lead follow.
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- So in slow motion, the little wrong is that.
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- You see that little bit of movement in my elbow at the beginning.
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- Now, here's the correct.
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- And that lets us be crazy together, which is the fun thing.
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- And you see this all over the place. So you'll see this on the side step.
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- The leaders will do this, and they'll leave their arm behind.
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- So I'm going to do a mediocre side step.
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- If you look at my right hand,
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- I want you to notice that my body is moving ahead of my arm.
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- But follow, but late, like what people would really do. Right?
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- And so she arrives after me because I'm not bringing her with this hand.
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- And it makes it impossible for us to be completely together.
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- And here's the correct version. Right here, the arm is moving with the body.
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- Here-
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- You know what? Show the legs for that.
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- Oh, it's here. Whoops. There we go.
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- So here's the correct.
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- Here's the incorrect. But no-
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- Okay.
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- Just follow the way people follow. Don't do that thing.
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- Okay.
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- I don't know when you're going to move.
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- Okay. Well, it proves it doesn't work. It proves that method doesn't work.
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- Let's try. I'll try it. I'll watch.
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- Okay, but it's clearly not as profoundly together is the point.
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- And so if you watch this on a side step as a leader,
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- most leaders when they begin to go, they don't have, I'm going to call it,
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- conviction. They're not taking their body through this right arm on that side step.
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- And so instead, what happens is a little bit that, where this hand stays behind a
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- little bit, and then that makes the lead unclear.
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- Or when they move forward,
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- they do a little bit this rather than this, where they take their body through
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- their hands.
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- When
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- I see leaders doing that, I'll lead them, and I'll tell them what I'm going to do
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- so they don't feel nervous. And I'll show them the suboptimal, which is very...
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- Could you put it a little... Try a little bit like this.
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- Down?
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- Yes, please. Thank you. That's good.
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- So I'll show them the suboptimal, which is almost never what David did.
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- It's usually this. Just this little bit of opening of the
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- shoulder. And then I'll show them the optimal.
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- And it's always very dramatic to the leaders how much better the optimal feels to
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- the follower. Sometimes.
