An Intro to Close Embrace - They are Where They Want to Be
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- We're gonna talk a little bit about
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- how you hold each other in, well, in general,
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- but in particular for close embrace.
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- One of the common mistakes is that when I,
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- when we hold each other, and I'm gonna show you,
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- I'm gonna exaggerate a bit, let me stand on this side.
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- Uh, for the leaders of the followers,
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- you pull your partner in an uncomfortable way.
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- So, ugh, right?
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- So there she just that, yeah, she just pulled in
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- with her left hand.
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- Go for it. Do it slowly. So if you, if she pulled in
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- that direction, that's uncomfortable for me.
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- Um, and likewise for leaders, it's very common for you
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- to pull the follower towards you.
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- That's an uncomfortable, so one
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- of the general principles is you see where the person stops
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- and that's where they want to be.
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- It's amazing. They put themselves where they want a miracle.
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- And so instead of pulling her towards me
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- or pushing her away, for example, with this hand, instead
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- of pushing her away, I'm going to find where she is.
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- One hand will go on the back, this case in close
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- and brief, my chest will go on the front,
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- my hand in my chest will meet her.
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- You can see that I'm not just,
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- um, and so you can say, is the chest and the hand
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- or are they going towards each other
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- or are they going off direction?
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- So for example, if I pull here,
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- I'm pulling her torso forward,
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- but there's nothing on the other side.
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- My chest is down here. It's even more remark market for her.
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- She's shorter. That's right. My chest is down there.
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- And so if we're here, I'm out of the way.
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- She needs to move her hand towards her chest.
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- It's this line. That's idea number
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- one, is that you want
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- to not disturb your partner by not pulling.
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- And
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- secondly, and this is like aspirational,
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- but if you can, you want
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- to have the pressure be very even in all places.
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- And it's not the actual pressure,
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- it's the perceived pressure, which is different.
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- So for example, with this open arm, it's very, uh, distal,
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- far away from the, from the center line of the body.
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- So you push less. Whereas with the hand in the chest,
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- you can push a little, but you make it seem like
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- everything and not let you hold each other in a very
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- comfortable way.
