A good dance for me is all about the energy - the energy conveyed by the music, the energy conveyed by the leader and my own energy in response to the music and the leader, as well as the energy that comes from my own "letting go" into the moment. When I am dancing what feels like the best kind of dancing, I feel literally "out of my mind" in an almost meditative state, with no thoughts and with a complete sense of wholeness in embodying the dance; and even better, I have a psychic sense that my leader is in that same state, whether we are completely together or whether doing our own thing in some way. I find when my energy is off, or the energy of my leader is off, the feeling of meditative flight while dancing is not as likely to be achieved. One very important thing to me is that my leader be silent and avoid making conversation or making comments or giving instructions while dancing. No matter how pleasant or well intentioned, I find it distracting and that it cuts into the potential positive creative energy of the dance. To me, dance is a whole world unto itself where I actually have little interest in anything about my leader beyond the quality and energy of the dance. Everything else is just stuff.