Compensating for Your Partner - She Rushes Ahead of My Lead
For everyone, you have to go more than half way to meet your partner.
A man was riding his Harley along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said, 'Because you have TRIED to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.'
The biker pulled over and said, 'Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want'.
The Lord said, 'That request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help mankind.'
The biker thought about it for a long time.
Finally, he said, 'Okay, I wish that I, and all men, could understand our wives; I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says 'nothing's wrong', and how I can make a woman truly happy.'
And the Lord replied, 'You want two lanes or four lanes on that bridge?'
- Artist Name:
- Jaime Wilensky
- Song Title:
- Aquella Noche
- Album Title:
- Tango Nuevo 2
(From Latinpulsemusic.com): This is nuevo "electrified" tango produced and arranged by Jaime Wilensky. Aquella Noche is a tango with a gothic sound and theme.
- 00:04
- This is a fun one, for me, every time we teach it.
- 00:08
- Because it's about the woman, kind of, rushing away from the lead. And just doing the step, 'cause she knows what the step is,
- 00:14
- Instead of letting the man lead them both into it. And I'm really good at that.
- 00:19
- D: She's good at doing the right, by the way.
N: Thank you.
D: As well. - 00:24
- So, we're going to do... I'll let her do the wrong. On me, I'll let myself do it.
- 00:28
- So, what it is, is I figure out what he wants. And then, I go do it.
- 00:34
- D: You are, you have a rare gift.
N: I feel, I think so, too. Yeah, you study to learn how to do that. - 00:39
- So, what I do first... Actually, if we do it to this camera...
- 00:44
- I become insanely still.
- 00:46
- D: Right? So, if she's all jittery and move-y... Be jittery and move-y.
N: Oh, this is a really cool technique. I've used it as a leader, too. - 00:56
- It's just mesmerizing.
- 00:59
- And so, I become incredibly still...in a really active way. And that stillness causes her to start to listen.
- 01:06
- And then, he does this incredibly slow, beautiful weight shift. With a mind-meld.
- 01:13
- And, at some point, the woman, whatever she's doing or thinking about,
- 01:16
- Will realize something cool is going on, and start listening to that instead.
- 01:20
- And, as soon as she starts listening to that - he's got her. For a little while.
- 01:23
- Yeah, for a little while. Before she runs off again.
- 01:26
- Also, as we do this... There's the sense that I'll hold her tighter.
- 01:44
- And I'll stop. So, she has to stop moving.
- 01:48
- So i'll be very convicted, full of conviction. And then I'll go...and I'll stop.
- 01:52
- And then I'll go, maybe, to here. And then, I'll brace myself. Right?
- 01:55
- So, I really have... I'm planting myself a little bit back, with the left foot forward. So, I can, actually, lever against.
- 02:01
- So, if she throws herself back, I can just be here like a rock. And then, go through.
- 02:07
- And so, eventually, if you have all of these coping mechanisms, you can...
- 02:11
- N: She figures it out.
D: Yeah.
N: Just listening. - 02:13
- Well, not just that. If you keep the pace slow enough, then, also, that tends to encourage people to listen.
