Condurre - Come fare una donna swoon
Probabilmente lo diciamo altrove, ma la cosa più importante non è tutte queste tecniche. Essi aiutano (molto), non ci sbagliano. Ma, se sei significato e egocentrico, il migliore abbraccio del mondo non farà molto per te.
Sii bello. E coraggioso. E tutto funzionerà.
- Nome dell'artista:
- Horacio Salgán
- Titolo Canzone:
- Don Augustin Bardi
- Titolo album:
- Legends of Tango
(Parafrasa da Wikipedia): Salgán ha iniziato a studiare il pianoforte all'età di sei anni. Alcune delle più famose composizioni di Salgán comprendono Del 1 al 5 (Días de pago) (1944), Don Agustín Bardi (1947), Entre tango y tango (1953), Grillito, La llamo silbando, Cortada de San Ignacio e A fuego lento.
- 00:05
- Leaders, I want to, first, set expectations, and say this chapter, and this series, actually, is about how to make a woman swoon.
- 00:11
- But, realistically, it's going to take more than watching a 3-minute video.
- 00:16
- So, you're going to watch the videos on the embrace, because that's really core.
- 00:19
- You're going to watch this video a gillion times. And you're going to practice a ton.
- 00:23
- And then, once you really get it, it will work marvellously.
- 00:25
- So, they say, to quote, "Put the woman to sleep".
- 00:28
- And it's not really about making her sleep. But, it's about letting there be no interruption.
- 00:31
- So the pressure is very constant. So, I'll hold her gently here. And my pressure won't change suddenly.
- 00:40
- So, as we dance, there's just this even few pounds of pressure on all points of contact.
- 00:45
- D: I don't, for example, say, "Oh, here's nothing. OK, let's go side, OK, let's go back."
N: Oh, I'm not going to like that. I knew I wasn't going to like that. - 00:52
- So, I'm not, "Bang, bang", sort of, jarring her with changes in pressure. And, instead, I'm keeping it constant,
- 00:58
- And just changing the direction.
- 01:00
- So, I'm holding in with everything. And then, if I want her to go that way, then we move that way.
- 01:04
- But I'm still having this gentle pressure.
- 01:06
- That's point number one. Now, point number two, is that...
- 01:13
- As you lead the follower, I really want you to think that you want to give her time.
- 01:17
- D: So, you're going to wait for her to be ready to move, before you move her to the next thing.
N: Yes. This is a big one. - 01:21
- D: So, you're going to attend to her.
N: And it's, actually, more complicated than that. Because you want to give her exactly as much time, as she needs. - 01:28
- And then you go right after she finishes whatever she's doing.
- 01:31
- Using front ochos, as an example.
- 01:35
- I'll go side. I pivot her. I wait for her to finish completely pivoting. And then, I go.
- 01:40
- I pivot her. I wait for her to finish, all the way. And then, I go.
- 01:45
- And, if we did the wrong, it would be this. I go side. I pivot her, OK, let's go! I pivot her, OK, let's go!
- 01:53
- And she's almost ready. But not quite. So, you want to wait for her to finish her movement.
- 01:57
- So, think just those two things. And... OK, we are going to add. I'm going to add the last one.
- 02:02
- D: And it's, sort of, too much. But, you're tough.
N: OK, yeah. - 02:06
- The final thing. And this is very subtle is the ball of the foot has a lot of width to it.
- 02:11
- Right? So, you can be anywhere on the ball of the foot. Not the ball of the foot - the whole foot. But also, the ball has width.
- 02:16
- So, she can be right here. Or, she can be here. Or here, or here. Or here. On her heel, or on the very tiptoe.
- 02:24
- And so, oftentimes, especially if you're dancing with a woman who's newer, she won't know where to be on the foot.
- 02:30
- And so, she won't find it very easy to pivot, or to take certain kind of steps.
- 02:34
- So, she needs to be... We need to be on the ball of our foot, Iin order to have our axis be very controlled, for pivots, particularly.
- 02:41
- But, if she's not there... Let's say, you're on your heels. So, if she's on her heels...You're good at being on your heels.
- 02:47
- Then, I'll hold her softly, as a leader, and I'll move her softly forward.
- 02:50
- And I'll place her on the ball of that foot, so that it's easier for her to move afterwards.
- 02:54
- So, now, how come that conglomeration of techniques makes a woman swoon? What does it make her feel like?
- 03:02
- So, guys, there's two things. There's one part, which is that you're holding her in a...
- 03:10
- D: Well, you are holding her. Right? People like to be held. So, you're holding her.
N: Some of us really like to be held. - 03:14
- And, you're holding her in a way... And, because you're using...
- 03:16
- Watched...Because you've watched all those chapters about the embrace, and practiced hard.
- 03:20
- You're using the muscles of your back to hold her. Which makes it feel safe and strong.
- 03:24
- Because my arms are still relaxed and I'm going into her, both with my arms and my mind, it's also attentive and caring.
- 03:35
- And so, there's the strength of the back and the ease of the arms, giving the... helping, enable to love.
- 03:43
- And then, as you dance with her,
- 03:45
- Because you're making sure she's ready to go, before you take them to the next thing, - there's this attentiveness.
- 03:50
- So, you're emoting to her strength, love and attentiveness.
- 03:54
- D: And then...
N: And then, it's such a smooth experience. - 03:57
- And then, she's just magically going in all these different directions. And she doesn't know how it's happening, but, boy, it's cool.
- 04:03
- And that's the evenness of the pressure and the ball of the foot.
- 04:05
- Sometimes, when I get finished with dancing a dance with David, I have no idea what we did. And I know all the steps, I teach the steps.
- 04:13
- But, it'll just be this incredible, magical experience, that happened.
- 04:18
- And if they ask me afterwards, what was it I was doing - I have no idea.
- 04:21
- It was just this... I almost feel like I'm flying.
- 04:24
- D: Have fun. Practice.
N: Yeah.