We can give you lots of techniques which allow you to lead or follow or dance well in the face of your partner's suboptimal performance. But we want to remind you that dancing with someone is about sharing a few minutes of human-ness with them. And it's about being together with them even when you have to exercise these techniques just to survive the dance.

So we suggest that you use these coping techniques without allowing the need for them to take over your experience of the dance. Think of them as a tool just as proper execution of an ocho is a tool which is part of what allows you to share a (hopefully positive) experience with your partner.